And they lived happily ever after — jk marriage is hard.
And they lived happily ever after.
Let me back up.
Last night I finished watching the new
Netflix movie Your Place or Mine.
And while the cute, cheesy storyline was precious, that isn't what stuck out to me.
and they lived happily ever after
jk — marriage is hard.
it was this a in the last minute of the movie.
The truth is...
Marriage is a mirror that refines you in a way you didn't expect (just me?)
but it's beautiful and wonderful, and totally self-sacrificial, and yes, it's very hard.
(That's why this painting is so important. It gives you a beautiful memory of your love story to revisit daily.)
because marriage is hard.
and you need those reminders of your deep love and connection, the reminders of how beautiful your love is, on the days when stuff hits the fan, when you journey through the highs and lows, the bright and shiny and the shadowy valleys.
My husband and I have been married for 10 years TODAY and here are three things I've learned:
ONE
Every day is a choice to die to my own selfish desires and love my husband the way he needs.
And this goes both ways.
TWO
There's a lot of noise out there- but no one else's opinions matter except you and your spouse.
THREE
Your spouse isn't perfect.
(Neither are you!)
This means:
+Love each other through imperfections.
+Fix yourself before trying to fix your partner.
Some bits from The Highlight Reel ⤵️
Holy guacamole — 10 years with this guy who still refuses all social media, and I love you more than the day we took this photo. I remember walking down the aisle at @crossingsokc in my @jjkellybridal dress and @bhldn shoes, holding my @tonyfoss flowers, feeling like a princess, literally jumping up and down at being pronounced husband and wife, our sweet pastor saying “Kiss her again!” Dancing the night away at @petroleumclubofoklahomacity which had always felt like the OKC version of @theplazahotel for me. And the prayers from my sister for lots of babies (the Lord really delivered on that one!)
He loves hard, knows all kinds of things that I know nothing about, serves selflessly, vigilantly watches the weather even at 2 in the morning (last weekend was no exception) and takes such good care of us, and I’d go back and choose him again and again.
Marriage is this beautiful mirror that refines you in a way you never expected. It’s also a choice — you choose to love your person *the way they need to be loved* everyday. And spoiler alert — sometimes it’s not something that comes naturally to you. So I’m sharing 3 things I’ve learned in this beautiful and wild experiment we call marriage. Thank you Lord for bringing us together and for faithfully sustaining us through the good, bad, and the crazy moments.
Tell me something you’ve learned or what resonated with you in the comments ⤵️
PS — I’ll share more photos on Instagram and in my Fine Art Friday email tomorrow. I mean, who doesn’t want to revisit the cheese church or 2013!?
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